Thinking about emotions and relationships when working in big teams

The working title for this piece was Working with difficult stakeholders. But I changed my mind, for three reasons: Firstly, I once referred to a stakeholder as ‘difficult’, but a colleague on the same project had a different experience. Secondly, when asked in a job interview how I’d deal with difficult stakeholders I realised that up to that point I hadn’t really given it much thought. And thirdly, ‘difficult stakeholders’ has a faceless ring to it and it sets the scene for othering.

On the back of a recent project I made a list to help me next time I work with a big group that hold divergent and often apposing views:

  1. Draw a map of all the people on the project.
  2. Make the interrelationships between them visible.
  3. Identify everyone that will be impacted positively.
  4. Identify everyone who will be impacted negatively.
  5. Identify what people need form the project, and understand why.
  6. Ask yourself: What am I not seeing?
  7. Start with your own emotions. Look at your feelings and take ownership of them.
  8. Acknowledge that change is emotional for people about to gain, or loose something.
  9. Back up observations and recommendations with evidence.
  10. Talk is work – be on the lookout for opportunities to start conversations.

Another way of looking at it is that the interrelationships between people on a project is the project. A project will fail to reach its potential if working effectively with others is not seen as a key deliverable.